Social Sesh: Why I Suck At Texting

Recently, someone close to me said I have pretty strict boundaries when it comes to being on my phone (especially when I am with my kids). And it got me thinking about how abnormal it is these days for people not to immediately respond to emails, texts, or social media notifications. I can’t be the only one who feels a tiny jolt of anxiety every time my phone dings. I used to feel bad when I would forget to text someone back, but honestly, it’s been freeing to set some real boundaries regarding my phone and my mental health.

Less Immediate Responses, More Peace of Mind

Not responding to every text or email right away is not just okay; it’s necessary — especially for balancing work and family life. I’ve set a steadfast rule for myself to be fully present when I’m with my kids. No half-hearted nods while scrolling through emails or responding to texts. Unless there’s a bona fide emergency, the messages can wait.

There’s a growing body of evidence suggesting a strong correlation between constantly being on our phones and increased levels of stress and anxiety. Think about it; every time your phone pings you, it’s a demand for your attention that pulls you away from whatever you’re doing or whoever you’re with. It’s exhausting. By not feeling compelled to respond immediately, I permit myself to breathe, to…